Believe it or not there are many married women and women in so called monogamous relationships who find the ultimate excitement in having a torrid affair. One significant change in society that has contributed to the rise in female infidelity is the internet. Some even go on to say that this type of action not only strengthens their marriage but increases their sex life. Forbidden sex can be good and exciting. Before you say "Not me, Never" look at some of these extramarital internet sites where Betrayal is the order of the day. There is no shortage of websites that you can explore that allow spouses to log on and communicate with strangers who soon become friends with benefits: Married secrets.com; Meet2cheat.com; Marriedlink.com; YouBmom.com & Lonelycheatingwives.com. You need to know the acronyms before you click.
The OW (other woman) is the scourge of the BW (betrayed wife) with whose WH (wayward husband) she
may have had a PA (physical affair) or an EA (emotional affair) or even an OEA (online emotional affair).
According to these sites a person can have an EA that is not physical or better yet long term and an OEA
that is long term. Because the OEA is online only and not physical how does the man or woman discontinue
the affair? Take the hammer to the computer? All of this seems like nonsense to me. If you are truly
cheating there is some physical and emotional affair in the works.  Here are some real stories:


Sabiner’s Story (Name changed)
Sabiner met her lover at one of the many charity events that her husband could not attend. “it was’nt a pick up – he is married style="font-family: comic sans ms;">and she is married. It was just great conversation. Yet she knew she wanted to see him again. She RSVP’d to events hoping her new friend would be there. She started to dress a little sexier at the thought of running into him. Months passed before she saw him again. They were both alone,They exchanged numbers and soon started to talk on the phone. She lied to her husband telling him that the calls were work related.  After a year of phone calls and emails with her new friend he finally convinced her that they needed to spend some time together. She agreed to meet him at a hotel. Yet even after that buildup, when Sabiner got to the hotel nothing sexual happened.They talked and talked. Later that year the emails and conversations became filled with sexual tension so they agreed to meet again at the same hotel. For the first time in 20 years Sabiner had sex with someone who was not her husband. She cherished her few hours each month with her lover. Having someone who adores you changes how you see yourself and how you behave says Sabiner.  Sometimes you don’t realize you are unhappy until you get a taste of something else.  After 5 years the surreptitious relationship continued to be something Sabiner could not give up.  Finally she came home and was confronted by her husband with dates and locations of her stolen moments. The details were so close to being correct that she was convinced that she was being watched closely.  The couple was not able to salvage their marriage and they finally got divorced. She just did not want to be roommates.  Since her lover is still married she came to realize that she did not want to continue their monthly trysts because she  wanted more and refused to settle for part-time commitment.



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Felizara  Story (Name changed)
Felizara  married her high school sweetheart and gave up her career to become a wife and stay at home mother. She considered herself a “good girl” and never thought she was the type to cheat. But she and her husband constantly argued about money and his being always at work and the loneliness got to her so she  started to write a novel.  Her novel – young woman with small kids having an affair.  She created 15 chapters before she longed to be the woman in her book. By this time Felizara now had a special friend on the internet who invited her to chat rooms and their online affair got heated and she agreed to meet him at a hotel. The forbidden sex was exciting, adventurous and off-the charts good. For the next year this mommy break to meet her lover became a part of her routine. Her friend would fly into meet her once a month and the sex was the bomb. You know….she had to spoil it and tell her husband about the affair when a phone call from her lover’s wife threatened to tell her husband. Felizara’s husband lost his temper and even when he forgave her and they both went to counseling they still got a divorce.






As in Sabiner's story..........Sometimes you don’t realize you are unhappy until you get a taste of something else. This is the very reason most women have affairs. The sex with their husband got old and boring and the new flame outdid the old. You have a  responsibility to yourself & your mate to make sure the sex is exciting. Do not let him continue with the "I just need you tonight sex" or  "We will have more time tomorrow night sex".  Everytime you have "pity sex or hurried sex" you are settling into a rut!


Felizara got taken by.....forbidden sex was exciting, adventurous and off-the charts good!  We all know that forbidden sex is always exciting. Remember the time you had sex in the backseat of a car?  The thought that someone may see or hear you made it exciting! The same holds true for sex in the kitchen, in the living room on the stairs, etc. The fact that her lover was skilled is another thing. Although you may have been there, done that seven years ago, re-creating some of the same naughty encounters of yesteryear will bring you back to the beginning. Just focus on sexual activities that help you rediscover each other's bodies, making them new again. Do not forget that when you communicate to your lover and tell him what makes you shriek with desire will make yours off-the charts good too!




Confession is good for the soul, and the truth will set you free; but will your lover set you free if you confess that you cheated on them? If they have any self respect they will tell you and your soul where to go.
Guilt is one of the strongest emotions that a person can experience. Guilt is the motivation for a lot of what happens after somebody cheats on their partner. Even the good and loving things that the cheater does can be coming straight from their gut wrenching guilt over what they did. Behaving extra attentive and considerate is a cheater’s way of trying to purge the sick feeling that plagues most people after doing what they know is wrong.  It takes a strong and responsible person to own their transgressions against the ones they love. But it takes just as strong a person not to confess a hurtful thing they did when the only thing sure to come of it is pain to the other person.









In today’s world, women are still often thought of as dependent on their husbands for financial support. Even if a woman works, it’s very hard to break this stereotypical impression. That said, having a job, your own friends, and a life independent of your husband can be immensely helpful. At the very least, if you do find yourself having to cope with infidelity and divorce, you’ll have a wider number of options available to you.  It’s weird how life works. How we allow people and situations to stand in the way of our dreams. Our body tells us when a relationship is not healthy but we do not always listen. Why is that? Our intuition is so loud sometimes, yet we turn down the volume.

The question is “Why do you stay in a bad relationship”?

* I don’t want to be lonely.
* I want to have someone in my life.
* I don’t want to do things alone.
* I don’t want to be alone forever.
* How will I pay the bills on my own?
Is your answer to these questions a good and valid reason to stay with a cheating partner?  If so, you will need to be the most forgiving woman on the planet and not throw up the past in your partners face EVER!



Check Infidelity Part II for Tips on checking your adulterous mate!
An important part in the process of healing  a broken relationship is understanding the difference between “mature” and “immature” love. “Being in Love” is, therefore, different than the excitement and strong pleasure of “Falling in Love”.  If one does not understand the difference, infidelity will become an answer to finding a new “falling in love” through finding a new partner. Such an immature love is also alluring because it comes with no commitments or responsibilities. It's best to be healthy minded spiritually and mentally so you won’t be tempted by lustful desires in the first place.











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