Anyone
can flirt. You don’t have to be Eighteen or a size Eight. You don’t
have to be beautiful. You don’t have to be bursting with personality.
You only have to Possess the Spark of Desire and a Sparkle in
your eyes. It simply begins with a friendliness and openness
that invites people to come closer.
The
key elements of flirtation are:
Strong
Self-Esteem
People are attracted to others who feel
strong and good about themselves. If you don’t like yourself, why should
others? Some folks have good self-esteem because it was nurtured from early
childhood in a family that made a conscious effort to instill it. Most
of us have to learn it. That begins with knowing what makes us feel insecure,
such as a lack of education or social skills, excess weight, or other insecurities.
If there is something that bothers you about yourself, fix it. It’ll be
the best investment you ever make.
Irresistible
Humor
Laughter is undeniably potent in drawing
others to you. Southerners are renowned for a sense of humor, especially
the self-effacing kind we use in stories. In flirtation, a sense of humor
will always be your greatest ally.
A Light-Hearted
Approach
Don’t take yourself or this game seriously.
It ruins it. That means it’s best to begin without any agenda such as “I
want to marry this guy.” No strategies. No plans. No objectives. Just keep
your spirits high and your heart light. A playful tone is also key. The
sound of your voice should clearly and loudly say, “Let’s have fun!”
Spirit
of Goodwill
Kindliness starts from deep inside and
may require a little effort, but this is truly what makes all flirting
work. People respond to inner beauty quicker than they respond to outer
looks. That’s why Southern mamas always warn their daughters, “Pretty is
as pretty does.”
Genuine
Interest
Everyone has a story of some kind. Regardless
of what it is, it is interesting because our stories make us who we are.
And everyone has a skill or talent. By asking questions about another’s
life, skills, and talent, you gain insight into the individual, and chances
are you’ll learn something.
Knowledge
Read. Read. Read. Observe and learn. Keep
up with current events and pop culture. You never know when a piece of
seemingly-insignificant information will serve you well in a moment of
flirtation.
Compliments
Aplenty
You can’t flirt without flattering. Can’t
be done! You have to make others feel good about themselves so that they
feel good about you.
Engagement
Always use the full impact of your eyes
and smile. In the hustle and bustle of a world that never stops, this tip
now works more powerfully than ever. Taking the time to look someone in
the eyes and connect for a moment can reach deep down to the soul of a
person. We’re losing too much human contact in today’s society. That’s
why these techniques, long touted by the women of the South, will high-heel
kick you to the top of someone’s favorite-persons list. Look into his eyes
for a deep connection and smile warmly. The eyes will draw him to you,
and the smile will wrap him in gracious hospitality. It is an irresistible
feeling in a world that is often far too cold.