Sex.  No matter how good you are at it or how many times you've done it, chances are you have a few deep, dark questions  you've always wanted answered.  So without further ado, allow us to give you the info you've been yearning for, courtesy of the country's top sex experts:
 

1. Why am I so dry during sex, even when I'm aroused, and what can I do about it?
Many things can cause vaginal dryness, including the birth-control or other medication you may be taking. Numerous over-the-counter allergy drugs, for example, contain epinephrine, which dries up your mucous membranes, including those down below.  Another common culprit; latex condoms that contain the spermicide nonoxynol-9; they can irritate your vagina, causing a dry, painful feeling, explains Hilda Hutcherson, M.D. and author of What Your Mother Never Told You About S-E-X. Switch to a spermicide-free condom and use a water-based lubricant, such as Astroglide or K-Y. Finally, keep in mind that vaginal lubrication varies depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle (most women are wetter while ovulating). If, however, you think none of the above are causing the problem, see your doctor to rule out any vaginal infection that can also result in dryness (such as yeast or bacterial vaginosis).
 

2. Sometimes after sex with my husband, I notice some light vaginal bleeding. Should I worry?
No. This is actually a common occurrence. It usually happens because the vagina isn't lubricated enough for intercourse, explains Hutcherson. "When you're dry, there's more friction, causing small tears in the vaginal wall that may bleed," she explains. But if you feel that a lack of lubrication isn't the problem, you should see your doctor. Vaginal bleeding may also indicate something more serious, such as a vaginal infection, cervical polyps (small benign growths) or, in rare cases, cervical cancer.

3. How should you clean sex toys?
Don't worry -- boiling them isn't necessary. Just wash with antibacterial soap and water and let them air-dry after each use. "Never put a moist sex toy into a plastic bag or closed container, because it can get moldy," warns Hutcherson. If you're using a battery-operated device, such as a vibrator, first clean it with an alcohol-soaked cloth to kill any germs, then wipe it down with a warm, soapy washcloth and towel-dry. "Just make sure you've gotten all the soap and alcohol off, so it doesn't irritate you," says sex therapist Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex. If you don't want to bother with cleaning, just cover the device with a condom every time you use it.

4. I've had no sex drive since giving birth three months ago. How can I get it back?
It's hard to feel very sexy when your sleepwear has gone from sultry lingerie to sweatpants covered with spit-up. But it's common to have a lowered libido for up to a year after having a baby. "After giving birth, and especially if you're nursing, your body produces a hormone called prolactin, which suppresses sexual desire," explains Lana Holstein, M.D. and author of How to Have Magnificent Sex. "It's nature's way of telling you you're not ready to get pregnant again." Less estrogen can also cause vaginal dryness (see question #1), making sex painful enough that you subconsciously avoid it. The solution, says Keesling, is to shift your focus to less sex-oriented ways of staying intimate.

5. Is there anything I can do to climax quicker? It usually takes me 45 minutes to an hour.
If it's taking longer than you'd like to reach orgasm, the reason may be the way you're breathing, says St. Claire. Many women tense up a bit during sex, and that causes them to breathe shallowly. But oxygen is essential for an orgasm, so the more you get, the faster you can bring yourself to a full boil. To increase the flow of oxygen-rich blood to your pelvic area, pant quickly but deeply during sex, envisioning the air being drawn far down into your stomach. Want to prime your mind for a faster orgasm as well? Start thinking sexy thoughts before you hit the sheets. That way you'll be one steamy step ahead by the time you're all over each other.

6. Believe it or not, my husband's penis is too big for me. What can we do to make sex more comfortable?
If the problem is the length of his penis -- you'll know because you feel him bumping against your cervix when he thrusts deeply -- the key is to stick to sex positions that limit you two to shallow penetration. Some prime positions for this are sideways and woman-on-top. (A bonus of the latter: You control the movement, so you decide just how deep he goes.) Positions to avoid: rear entry, and missionary in which your legs are raised, both of which are conducive to deep thrusting. If the width of your husband's penis is more the issue, make sure you're using lubrication, such as Astroglide or K-Y. These products will reduce friction during thrusting and keep sex pleasurable rather than painful.

7. Is there a way I can learn to have multiple orgasms?
Yes, yes and yes! But multiple orgasms may not be what you think they are; they're not one big orgasm right after another. "It's usually several smaller, separate orgasms with very little time -- 30 seconds or so -- between them," explains New York sex therapist Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D., author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex. If you're feeling too sensitive after orgasm number one to be touched again, try switching to positions or techniques that offer less direct stimulation and won't be too overwhelming. "Rather than continuing to stimulate the clitoris directly, have your partner stimulate the sides of your clitoris, or your vagina, for a while," suggests Gardos. Once you feel ready for more, tell him -- and stay tuned for orgasm number two.                                                     (Courtesy of Redbook)

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Reasons a Woman could have sexual dysfunction are:
 

• Marital status. Single women have more problems than married women. Significantly higher numbers of women who were divorced, widowed, or had never married reported anxiety over sex and inability to achieve orgasm.
• Health. Both poor physical health and emotional problems were associated with low desire level, inadequate arousal, and pain during sex.
• Social status. A decline of more than 20% in household income was associated with low desire, inadequate arousal, and pain during sex.
• Sexual experience. Being forced to have sex earlier in life was associated with low desire and inadequate arousal.
• Partner relationship. Women who rated their physical and/or emotional satisfaction with their partner as "low" or who reported that they were generally unhappy had a 2- to 4-fold risk of dissatisfaction in all categories.
• Age. Although they had more trouble achieving vaginal lubrication than 18- to 29-year-olds did, women in their 40s and 50s were significantly less likely to report performance anxiety, pain during sex, or lack of pleasure.