Have you ever had a bedroom blooper? Well you are not alone. Lets face it real life sex, is far from the perfectly executed romantic scene Hollywood portrays on the big screen. And sex experts say that every couple experiences their share of blunders in the sack. How do you deal with Awkward moments in bed?
 

Awkward Moment #1: Poor Timing
Chances are, no matter how good your husband is in bed, there has been a time when you wished he could have lasted a little longer. “Trust me,” says Gilda Carle, PhD, a sex and relationship expert and the author of How to Win When Your Mate Cheats, “when this happens, he’s more embarrassed than you are.” Instead of berating him, or acting hurt, Dr. Carle says to ask for a rain check. “You may also remind him of how women sometimes don’t climax, despite the heat of the moment,” she says. Bottom line: Acknowledge the awkward moment, and move on. This is no time for shame or blame.

Awkward Moment #2: Someone Passes Gas
Whoops! If it’s happened to you, take heart. According to experts, the average person passes gas about 15 to 25 times per day, and the friction of sexual intercourse can sometimes increase gas. Next time it occurs, don’t let it kill the mood, says Dr. Carle. “Instead, shrug your shoulders, apologize for any foul smell and change the subject,” she says.

Awkward Moment #3: He Suggests Something You’re Uncomfortable With
Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you’ll always have the same ideas about what you want in bed. And when he suggests something that you’re uncomfortable with, it can be a real buzz kill. Instead of shutting him down, try for common ground, says Stephanie Buehler, PsyD, a California-based psychologist and sex therapist. “If possible, see if you can ‘negotiate’ the fantasy so that it includes elements that turn you on, too,” she suggests. But, Dr. Buehler adds, if his fantasy is going into areas that make you uncomfortable, “you may need to nibble his ear and say, ‘You know, honey, you have a great imagination. Could we use it to find something that turns me on, too?’ That way you're praising him as well as encouraging him instead of shutting him down.”

Awkward Moment #4: Accidental Injury
Ouch! Sex doesn’t have to be classified as rough to lead to injury. Just think: accidental biting, scratching, a jagged toenail that cuts the skin, a pulled muscle, leg cramps, etc. First rule of accidental injury in bed: Get up and deal with it (whether that means taking an aspirin or getting a bandage). Second rule: Laugh it off. According to Dr. Carle, interrupted sex can tell you a lot about your man. “You’ll see how he deals with interrupted pleasure, and not getting his way,” she says.

Awkward Moment #5: One of You Isn’t in the Mood
Someone wants sex, the other doesn’t. It can often be a recipe for hurt feelings in the bedroom, and plenty of uncomfortable silence. But it’s important to learn that “no” doesn’t mean “I don’t love you,” says Dr. Buehler. “I think it's best that the couple has an understanding that it's always OK to say no to sex, no matter what,” she says, adding that the bedroom should be a no-guilt zone. “On the other hand, a woman can check in with herself and ask if she's totally out of commission or could rally if needed. If she's out of commission, she should give her partner a ‘soft no,’ that is, saying no but suggesting that they have sex in a day or two or on the weekend when she thinks she'll be well or more rested.”

Awkward Moment #6: Someone Utters…the Wrong Name
You’ve been married forever, so why did you just call your husband the name of your high school crush? It doesn’t mean your love for him has been compromised, says Dr. Carle. “The brain is an amazing organ,” she says, “especially during sex, when you’re less apt to think before speaking.” If it happens to you, his (or your) feelings are bound to be hurt, but remind him of how much you love him and chalk up the flub to a rogue fantasy.

Awkward Moment #7: Your Kids Walk In
It’s the moment every parent dreads: You thought your 5-year-old was sound asleep, but then she comes in asking for a drink of water and catches you in the act. “Sometimes children find sex confusing and think that couples are fighting or hurting each other,” says Dr. Buehler. If you find yourself in this precarious situation, it’s best to address your child’s concerns immediately. “You can say that Mommy and Daddy are sometimes very affectionate with each other, and that what she saw is normal for married people to do,” she adds. And invest in a lock for your bedroom door—pronto.

Awkward Moment #8: Bodily Functions Gone Wrong
Sex isn’t always tidy and neat. Incontinence, embarrassing noises and ill-timed bowel movements can interfere with romantic moments. For example, at one point or another, almost every woman has experienced the infamous trapped air sensation in her vagina, which can lead to noises that sound a lot like gas. “It’s so common,” says Debra Laino, a sex therapist in private practice in Wilmington, Delaware. If (and when) it happens to you, she has this advice: “I think that women need to just own up to air in their vagina, and giggle about it. In the grand scheme of things it's really not that big of a deal.

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Oral Sex Tips

The words Oral Sex are so shocking to some people, we couldn't put them in the newsletter.  Some of us say oral sex is distasteful and will not participate in this form of sex while others enjoy this bedroom fare.  No matter who is going down on whom, the goal is to make it as pleasure filled as possible. But since hardly anyone talks about it, it's tough to get the good, juicy tips you need to make it mind-blowing. Thanks to Cosmo for these tips:

"Invisible oral" can boost your pleasure.
A shocking number of women have trouble mentally letting go and enjoying oral. Sound like you? Try keeping the lights off so you can't see him. You'll have fewer distractions and be able to focus.

There's a gag-proof way to go deep.
Here's a trick that gives him the illusion that you're taking him all the way in: Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. Then let his member hit the underside of your tongue.

Suction isn't just for hickies.
Many women have complained to the experts that they have a hard time getting off while he's down south because their guy doesn't use enough pressure. Ask him to switch up his moves and try sucking on your clitoris instead—it provides a more intense pressure.

His "boys" want to join the party.
Fifty-one percent of men complain that their girlfriends ignore their balls during oral. Try this trick: While your hand strokes his shaft, take one testicle at a time into your mouth and lightly suck.

There's a way he's never been licked.
The meatus—the hole on the tip of his penis—is supersensitive. Stick the tip of your tongue on that spot and apply medium pressure. It's such a specific place, he probably doesn't even realize it has feel-good potential, so he'll love that you've discovered it.

If you're into it, he's into it.
One thing that turns guys on is enthusiasm. In fact, lots of them have a hard time fully enjoying themselves because they worry that their partner hates being down there. Let him know you like it by softly moaning as you take him into your mouth.

Multitasking leads to more Os for you.
Our experts say that being stimulated in multiple areas will help a woman reach climax more quickly. So while his tongue is at work, have him play with your nipples. In the beginning, he should softly stroke your tips, but as you get closer, he can squeeze.

69 isn't truly amazing until you've tried this.
Lie side-by-side, with your head near his penis. As you both lick, let your hands massage each other's booties—there are large muscles there, so rubbing them will make for an even greater release.

Cooling down can be very hot.
Your temperature rises slightly when you're aroused, so anything cool will be a pleasurable jolt to your senses. Point a fan in your direction so that while he's between your legs, you're feeling both warm from his mouth and a cool breeze. The combo is unexpected, and anything surprising can send you over the edge.

Sometimes thinking dirty is a bad idea.
The primary reason women give sex therapists for not wanting their guy down there is they worry they smell. Your guy probably loves your aroma, but you can eliminate that concern by taking a quick half-shower before a date. You will feel much fresher and won't worry about a funky fragrance.

He wants to pretend he's a bike seat.
You don't have to be on your back when you're on the receiving end of oral. Have him lie down, and then put your privates over his mouth. This gives you some control over the pace and motion, making it easier for you to orgasm. And experts tell us it can be erotic for a man to have your coochie that up close and personal.

Feast his eyes.
You probably already know that guys are extremely visual, but it can be hard for him to get a decent view while you're down there lavishing his penis with love. Place a standing mirror next to you so he can check you out. The combo of feeling and seeing you will blow (pun intended) his mind.

How to Persuade Him to Return the Favor...
If your guy doesn't always dive headfirst between your legs, it's time to drop a serious hint.

Get a Brazilian.
Men say landing strips make them want to spend time down there the most.

Conduct a taste test.
Pick up flavored lube samples, then tell your guy you want him to find out which tastes best on you.

Talk it up.
Since guys get off on getting you off, say "I can't stop thinking about the last time you went down on me".

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Are you unable to climax during oral sex? It's possible that your guy just hasn't mastered the kinds of mouth maneuvers you need to get off. So, indulge in a little erotic experimentation by asking him to vary the speed, pressure and types of moves he makes. For example, he can flicker his tongue back and forth across your clitoris, then slowly run it up and down your entire vulva. Another titillating technique that many women swear by: Have him use the tip of his tongue to trace circles or figure eights.

If, after trying various techniques, you still can't reach oral gratification, you probably do need internal stimulation to climax, so clue your man in. The next time you feel like you're heading to the O zone when he's going down on you, ask him to incorporate penetration. Say something like, "I want to feel your fingers inside me." Have him move one or two fingers in and out, simulating intercourse. Or, go for some G-spot action by asking him to make "come-hither" strokes with his finger against your upper vaginal wall.

If fingering doesn't fully get you off, another option is to add toys to his down-there routine. Using a vibrator or dildo to mimic doing the deed as he simultaneously licks you might be all it takes to unleash your oral orgasmic potential.

The bottom line: Communicating what you need to climax will lead to better between-the-sheets satisfaction for both of you.