Mr Perfect

The perfect guy has no baggage, no serious exes and no meddling parents, right? Wrong! If a man like that actually existed — and he doesn't — you wouldn't want him anyway. The man with no skeletons (or crazy aunts) in the closet and no major traumas in his past may seem like a dream come true, but he’s completely inexperienced in dealing with the crises life throws at every long-term relationship. He'd also be completely freaked out by the crazy cast of characters you'll bring to the party. If you're looking for a perfect prince to take away all your troubles and make your life worry-free, quit it!  Great husbands don't serve you a fairy-tale world on a silver platter; they stand beside you and help you deal with real life. "Romantic love thrives on fantasy — even ignorance, but that's not sustainable in the long run," says Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of the best-seller "Getting the Love You Want." If you're looking for a long-haul relationship check him out!

Men in their twenties want a pretty woman, an ornament on their arm to show their boss and the world: "Hey, I must be really cool to attract such a hot babe." 

As he enters his thirties, a man's taste in women definitely changes. After the initial experimental stage where he dates a lot of people, he looks for a woman to fill certain roles, like wife and mother. Another way to put it: He's refining his taste. He knows he can't spend all his time in bed. The mid-to-late thirties are often the period when men give in to their urge to settle down. 

40 year old men still think a roll in the hay is nice, but now they're more eager for substance. They want to be nurtured. If you're up for the job, the 40s man may be yours for the taking. Many of them are burnt out, making tons of money and lonely as hell because they have no one to share their success. Yes, the 40s man is sensitive, but he's also prone to mid-life crises and heavy-duty alimony payments. Find this disheartening? Just keep in mind that some of the most compatible love matches are between older women and younger men. Why? These two age grooves are actually the most sexually in sync of any combo out there. 

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The Mama's Boy 
Characteristics: Sweet, but soft: he may have a bit of a belly from mom's home-cooked meals, and/or he may actually live at home. 
Why You'll Be Tempted: He'll watch chick flicks with you. 
Why You Should Run: He's actually already seen them all. 
Danger Signs: He tells you you're the woman his mom's always dreamed of, and brings her along on your first date. 
What to Say to Scare Him Away: "I tend to prefer guys who pick out their clothes themselves." 
 

The Womanizer 
Characteristics: Whether he's traditionally handsome or a diamond in the rough, there's just something about this guy that makes you swoon. And he treats women like gold because he loves them -- all of them -- so much. 
Why You'll Be Tempted: He knows how to compliment, woo, and touch to thrill -- especially thrill. 
Why You Should Run: He uses the same routine on every woman he meets. 
Danger Sign: He blanks on your name while you're both naked (it's tough to keep all those women straight). 
What to Say to Scare Him Away: Two words: "Monica Lewinsky
 

The Jock 
Characteristics: Hunky, tough, always up for a spontaneous game of football, and able to carry off a backwards baseball cap -- sort of. 
Why You'll Be Tempted: Those muscles. 
Why You Should Run: All the hours he spends at the gym bulking up those muscles, not to mention the hours spent gazing at his reflection in the mirror, in store windows, on the back of his spoon... 
Danger Signs: Watches sports on TV constantly, even during sex. 
What to Say to Scare Him Away: "The [insert local sports team here] stink." 

Mr. Not-So-Straight 
Characteristics: Stunning good looks, dashing dresser, hip on the pop culture front, and refreshingly keen on shopping with you. 
Why You'll Be Tempted: He really "gets" you. 
Why You Should Run: You deserve more than a partner to watch "Will and Grace" with. 
Danger Sign: When you both catch yourselves watching Ricky Martin with equal, um, enthusiasm. 
What to Say to Scare Him Away: "My dad would love to take you hunting." 

 
You've Met The Man of Your Dreams. . . now what?

When you're in a happy relationship, moving in together might seem like the next logical step. After all, you're always at his place anyway, and shacking up would put an end to all that commuting back and forth, not to mention the stress of trying to remember where you left your makeup bag. Plus, you'd get to eat dinner together every night, spend lazy Sunday afternoons spooning on the couch, and you'd have round-the-clock access to his gentle wit and heavenly foot massages. All this, and you'd cut your living expenses in half!  Whoa!  Before you start packing, it's important to think about what cohabiting really means. Take a good look at your new guy through that haze of happiness and determine whether you share similar interests and values.  Remember, if you're experiencing more anxiety than joy, that's probably a red flag. "Don't overlook it if he seems dishonest or isn't that nice to strangers. You can tell a lot about a person early on in a relationship."
 

THE RELATIONSHIP

Your relationship is definitely not terrible. He doesn't call you names or put you down in public. He's not an alcoholic or a complete workaholic. Still, your relationship leaves you feeling lonely, unappreciated or flat-out bored. And so you're faced with that nearly impossible question: Stick it out or call it quits?  If you're struggling with a so-so relationship, you're not alone. "There are 140 million Americans in a relationship on any given day, and at least one fifth of them — that's 28 million men and women — are feeling iffy. They just can't decide whether to stay or leave," says psychologist Mira Kirshenbaum, Ph.D.

Look at the facts, make your decision & stick to it.!! 

Are you Having Sex or Making Love?
Having sex is about fun and feral passion, about games and a go-go attitude. It's about getting your rocks off. There's something selfish (as in self-focused) about simply having sex: It usually involves figuring out how to maximize your pleasure. Making love, on the other hand, is about taking stock of and cherishing another person. It's about connecting and communicating tenderness, respect and affection. It's about showing a fellow human that he or she is a unique, gorgeous, beautiful gem by caressing, kissing and, most importantly, gazing into that person's eyes, aka the windows to the soul. 

O.K . . the sex is good, is he Good to YOU!

Many women fail to recognize the signs of violence — physical or verbal — until they're well into a romantic relationship. Being accosted or assaulted is never the woman's fault, but we should all know how to spot the warning signs of an abusive partner — not only for our own sakes, but in case a friend or family member is ever in harm's way.
Checklist : Signs That Verbal Abuse May Turn Physical
1. He has been in a violent relationship before or has a history of violent encounters with others.
2. He blocks your exit — or threatens you in other ways — during arguments.
3. He pulls things out of your hands or asserts physical dominance in other ways (such as insisting on having sex when you don't want to).
4. He starts to go public: The criticism and name-calling happens in front of other people.
5. He is violent during arguments; he punches holes in walls, smashes things on the floor and/or destroys property.

Is your lover a MARRIED Man?

If he cheats on her, he will surely cheat on YOU!

A few truths about Infidelity

· A happy marriage is not a guarantee against infidelity
· The person having the affair may not be giving enough at home rather that not getting enough.
· It is normal to be attracted to another, but fantasizing about what it would be like to be with that person is a danger sign.
· Infidelity is not only about love or sex. It’s about knowing how to set boundaries in social interactions and being respectful of your committed relationship.
· You do not have to have sexual intercourse to be unfaithful. Passionate kissing or oral sex is a violation of your commitment to you partner. We found this out in the last Presidency.
· Emotional affairs are characterized by secrecy, emotional intimacy and sexual chemistry.  They can be more threatening than brief sexual flings.
 

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Before you give him the Boot.

• Does he Love You? If his love is deep and he shows it by making you feel valued & wanted, it may be worth forgiving even serious flaws.
• If you met him today,would you like him? If he is still the kind of man you're looking for emotionally & physically you should consider patching the holes.
• How would you feel not seeing him daily?  If he is your best friend as well as your lover, losing both may be difficult.
• Is he capable of change?  Give him the chance to be different.  You may be surprised at what he can done when your Love is on the line.
• Will you be better off without him? Go through the pros and cons in your head focusing on what you'll gain versus what you'll lose if you give him the boot.