We are creatures of habit and if going to Church every Sunday is what we have been doing for the past 10 years then that's what we will do this Sunday!  Never mind that your significant other wants you to stay home in bed with him all day Sunday,  you're not hearing it.  What would your family think when you are not dressed to the nines come 10:00 A.M. Sunday morning? Ahh. . . to be SPONTANEOUS. This is the "S" word that comes to mind.  Having a Lover who is Spontaneous is just what every love affair needs and craves.  This kind of behavior will only get you to have more fun, more choices & more Life.  Spontaniety. You need it and I need it.  No planning needed. . .Just do It !





Your Bedroom is not the only room in the house and home alone is anywhere in your house.  Many a hot steamy sessions occur in the living room, kitchen, against the stairs, in the hallway as well as the bathroom. A romp around the house stimulates your love affair and is spontaneous. That word again. . . .


The Sexy You He Wants
Men have always loved challenging, confident women and this generation of men have grown up to seeing women in positions of power - female doctors, lawyers, even Presidential candidates - so they are not put off by a driven confident woman. In fact some men say that they are turned on by those qualities.  Just in case you forgot . . . sexy comes in all sizes and you do not have to be a size 0 to be the knockout Diva your man wants.


Give Him a Peep Show
Much of arousal is driven by what we see — especially for guys. "Many men love watching a woman get turned on. It lets them know what gets her going and makes them feel like they're doing something illicit by just sitting back and enjoying the show," says sexologist Sari Locker, PhD, author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex. "And it's great for women too. Seeing how a guy reacts to watching you pumps up your desire."


Have Stranger Sex
When you pretend you're someone else, you completely change the rules. For one, you both naturally become much more daring as you act. Also, you have to be creative to play the part, and that means coming up with all sorts of naughty things your character might be into. With role-play, you can more easily move outside your comfort zone and enjoy extreme sensations and positions you wouldn't normally try together.


Plan a Sneak Attack
Ambushing your guy turns you into a total sex vixen who can't get enough and makes him feel extremely wanted. When you're not expecting something, your senses are heightened, making it easier to enjoy every touch during a hookup.


Test-Drive Twisty, Torrid Positions
Nothing screams naughty like providing a view and finding new angles neither of you is used to. One tip: Do it in various parts of your house, because it'll force you to accommodate your positions to the different obstacles.


Switch it Up
One way to get out of a bedroom rut is to embrace the unused spaces in your house. “Switching to an anonymous place gives you the chance to unwind and relax,” Rachel Kramer Bussel, sex columnist and editor of Do Not Disturb: Hotel Sex Stories, says. “In out-of-ordinary settings, you can act out a scenario or simply get away from home or daily life.” Plus, it makes sex more exciting! So, enjoy a mid-day Saturday romp on the pull-out couch,workout bench in the gym or the back row of the minivan. Before you get too into it, be sure to lock the door in case the kids are playing hide-and-seek and accidentally find you instead.






How to Feel Sexy. .
  1. Lower your voice when on the phone.  There is proof that we speak in a lower tone when we're speaking to someone we are into. Knowing you sound like a vixen will make you feel even more like one.
  2. Tuck a Herbal tea bag in the corner of your underwear drawer. Slipping into yummy smelling undergarments makes the mundane routine of getting dressed sensual.
  3. Drop lusty words like "passionate and stimulating" into conversations.
  4. Maintain hot-chick posture when you're sitting. Stick out your chest, straighten your back and drape one leg over the other.
  5. Try Dirty Flirting. Being all over each other at a party, making sexual glances at each other will keep your connection solid and sex percolating.
  6. Send him a Sext message or text a naughty pic to let him remember your sexy self.
  7. Wear something sexy to bed everynight, even if you are alone.
  8. Use your hands instead of a lloofah to suds up in the shower, Gliding them over your wet, slippery body feels sensual.
  9. Let a sly little half smile play on your lips. You'll come across as coy and mysterious.
  10. Take care of your body, treat it well and it will treat you well.
BODY LANGUAGE
Body Language is crucial when communicating - your hand gestures, feet position and posture all convey specific messages. Your EYES say even more than all those factors combined.  A womans gaze is a seductive tool, but you have to know how to use it.

The Look that says you are into Him:  Gaze directly at him and smile for a few seconds with your head cocked to one side, then briefly look down and away This is mother nature's pickup tool. According to Helen Fisher, PhD professor at Rutgers University this look is called a "copulatory gaze and its extremely common among primates"  Because you are looking at him and then averting your gaze this hard to get eye contact subconsciously prompts him to want to pursue you.  Cocking your head ups the ante since it indicates interest.

Win an Argument: Make direct eye contact with your eyebrows raised as you're discussing your reasoning. Raising the eyebrows exaggerates eye contact, making a gaze more persuasive than usual.

Make anyone Forgive You ASAP: Drop your eyes and tilt your head forward, like you're praying. In this position you literally lose face - dropping your gaze and head is a submissive posture, making the other person feel as though you are acknowledging you're in the wrong.  This move also prevents the other party from escalating the situation.

Shut down a Bitch: Stare at her forehead, then turn your face away to prevent her from making eye contact. By looking away you're bascially saying "I'm over you and this conversation, so step off bitch".




Everything You Need to Know About Your Vagina.
Can sex stretch it out? Is it supposed to have an odor? And why does it feel so freakin' good when it's touched and stroked?  
It's shocking how many women don't know their own anatomy. Most of us cannot identlfy the:  hymen, perineum, urethra or cervix. Some of us do not know that there is a cervix at the end of the vagina. Another common misconception to the novice, is that women urinate out of the vagina. Although men do urinate out of the penis through the urethra, women urinate out of the urethra – a tube-like structure that is separate from the vagina and leads to the bladder. The vagina has more nicknames than possibly any other female body part, its own doctor, and the ability to bring you tons of pleasure — not to mention pain, particularly if you plan to have a baby. Yet the vagina remains a mystery to many. In fact, a Cosmo poll found that more than 60 percent of women say they don't know a lot about their va jay jay — which is unfortunate, because a new study reports that women who feel confident about their down-there area have more orgasms. Here are the crucial facts from Cosmo about how it functions, keeping it healthy, and increasing the amount of bliss it brings you.


1. It's just one part of your down-there region
Most of us use the word vagina to refer to our private parts. But technically, the term describes only the narrow canal that runs inside your body from the vulva (the visible area that includes the inner and outer labia, clitoris, and perineum) to the cervix (the lower portion of the uterus).

2. Vaginas generally look alike
...On the inside, that is. What does vary is the vulva. The clitoris ranges from 1 to 1¼ inches (including the hood), the outer labia can be barely there or a few inches long, and the inner labia, which are reminiscent of butterfly wings, might be hidden or hang past the outer lips. Most women's labia aren't perfectly symmetrical — one side is usually bigger than the other.

3. The surrounding area often can be different colors
The shade of your southern region isn't necessarily related to the tone of the rest of your skin. Many light-skinned women have brown or purplish labia, while a darker-hued chick can have a lighter vulva. You also can have different colors in different areas — for example, your labia could be on the darker side yet your perineum could be pale pink.

4. Its walls are pleated
Usually, the walls of the vagina lie compressed against each other. But when they need to open— to accommodate a tampon or penis—the sides separate and widen, kind of like the way an umbrella opens or a pleated skirt unfolds. The vagina typically swells from half an inch wide to 2 inches wide. And it can get even bigger — after all, a baby might have to pass through it!

5. Relax — a well-hung guy won't stretch it out...
As explained above, the vagina is incredibly elastic and can fit a supersize penis — yet it always returns to its usual tightness after sex. But it might be a different story once you pop out a baby, as some moms say they do feel looser. You can tighten up by doing certain exercises (see number 7).

6. ...Nor will it "revirginize" if you go through a long dry spell
There's a rumor out there that if you find yourself in a no-booty bout, your vagina will become so tight that getting back in the saddle will hurt. It's totally untrue. While your vaginal muscles may be tense at first, penetration shouldn't be painful at all.

7. It benefits from regular exercise
Just as working your biceps firms up your arms, working your pubococcygeus muscle — a main muscle of your pubic region — can tone up your vadge. Besides giving you a tighter grip during sex, it also may make it easier to climax. Here's how to exercise your V: Clamp down as if you're stopping your urine flow, hold for 10 seconds, then release. Do 2 sets of 10 to 20 a day; you'll notice a difference in about a month.

8. It's teeming with bacteria
Don't get grossed out — they're the kind that keep bad microorganisms in check so you don't get an infection. One of the good bacteria is lactobacilli, also found in yogurt. In fact, some gynos say you can help cure a yeast infection by inserting a tablespoon of plain yogurt with live cultures into your vadge (put some on a tampon, and push it in).

9. It's self-cleaning
No need to douche or wash the inside — your vagina cleans itself with discharge (yep, that stuff has a function). The secretions flush out cells from the vaginal wall, excess water, and bacteria. The only washing it needs is on the outside between the labial folds and along the perineum (use a mild, scentfree soap).

10. The hair around it isn't necessary
Back in caveman times, pubes shielded the vagina from bacteria and trapped odor to attract men. Today, we have clothes to protect us. And as for attracting a guy with your hairy crotch, the opposite may be true: Some guys are turned on by seeing a woman's bare V.

11. Its smell gets stronger during your cycle
Speaking of scent, every vagina has one. It tends to be acidic before your period and pungent afterward. Your scent also may be more noticeable post-workout, because of sweat glands, and during sex, thanks to the natural lubrication you produce.

12. Getting it on does it good...
Part of the reason sex feels so amazing: Hoo-ha stimulation, whether or not you reach an O, releases feel-good hormones. Some gynos also say that having an orgasm eases cramps — an awesome reason to hit the sheets with your guy or have solo sex when you have your period.

13. ...But too much sex can throw it out of whack
While regular action can relax you, too much in a short period of time may leave you chafed or inflamed down south or with a urinary-tract infection. You're more likely to get a UTI if you do it on top or in missionary, since your guy's penis is superclose to your urethra and can push harmful bacteria in it. No need to give up these poses though; peeing post-sex can keep a UTI at bay.

14. Discharge changes throughout your cycle
Your va jay jay produces more discharge — up to 2 teaspoons a day — during ovulation; it tends to be thinner and clearer at this time. Before your flow, it's creamier and thicker. If it ever itches, burns, stinks, or looks like cottage cheese, see your doctor right away!

15. Things can't get lost up there
Your vagina is not a black hole. It's impossible for anything (like a tampon) to escape into your uterus — the cervix blocks off access. But a tampon can slip out of reach. If one does, fish it out while squatting and bearing down. If that doesn't work, make an appointment with your gyno, who will pluck out the tampon quickly and painlessly. Note: Steer clear of putting food, even chocolate syrup or whipped cream, up there. The sugar can lead to an infection.



Designer Vaginas?
Some doctors say vaginal surgery can increase pleasure and improve appearance, but these procedures are rarely medically necessary, are hardly ever covered by insurance, and can cause nerve damage. (Besides, in our opinion, this is one thing that does not need improvement.) A few of the so-called corrections offered:

Vaginal Rejuvenation $7,000*
Aimed at women who complain of feeling too loose to enjoy sex, it involves tightening the vagina. The truth: No published studies show whether “rejuvenated” women feel more or less satisfaction.

Labiaplasty $6,000*
This can reduce the size of the inner or outer labia and even out asymmetrical lips. However, visibly asymmetrical and uneven lips are actually the norm.

The G-Shot $1,550*
It increases the size of the G-spot area via a collagen or cosmeticfiller injection; this supposedly intensifies sensation. Shots last three to six months. Beware: Its effectiveness is in doubt.

Hymen Repair $5,000*
This reconstructs the hymen, allowing a woman to experience the feeling of losing her virginity again. Hmm...pain, blood, and awkwardness a second time around? Don’t sign us up.

*Costs are estimates; prices will vary.   (Thanks to Cosmopolitan magazine)


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Leg Lock


Erotic Instructions:
This one was made for the kitchen countertop. Hop up there and assume the spread-eagle position. With your man between your linked legs, have him thrust inside you. You’ll be creating megaheat in a minimal amount of time.

Why You'll Love It:
Let’s face it, sometimes you’re not in the mood for languid, last-forever lovin’. Every now and then, you’re so horny that you just want to orgasm — pronto! This move was made for those nights when you and your man can barely make it through the front door. There’s no question you both will come quickly with this deeper-than-deep plunging. Plus, men get off on the novelty of doing it somewhere new — to them, out of the bedroom equals no-holds-barred sex. The best thing about the Leg Lock is its versatility — anywhere you can sit and he can stand will work just fine for you! Hmm, just imagine the possibilities.



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